Gags.

Apologies for the lack of writing. Life’s been hectic.

Gags.

Bondage is not complete without one, in my opinion. What’s the point of being trussed up, tied up, tied down, strapped in, strapped up or strapped down, if you can still freely flap your gums?

There’s something extremely constricting in simply being unable to talk alone. Imagine if you just walked around all day without being able to talk? (This includes texting, writing etc. etc). Being unable to communicate with people is very isolating, when you think about it. And after all, isn’t isolation a theme with bondage from time to time? ;)

Duct-tape is the winning champion with me. It’s also something I’m the most picky about. If I try to blow air out of my mouth when I’m gagged with tape and it manages to escape, that means that the gag is fail, not tight enough, and needs to be done over again.

I’m a huuuuuge fan of Gorilla Tape. It’s thick, it’s black, it’s sweat resistant, its got some weight to it so it feels sturdy when it’s all over your face. You get the idea. The only drawback is facial hair. If you have lots of it, you might regret it. Being the smooth-skinned and pale individual I am, facial hair is rather thin.

The latex/PVC “bondage tape” stuff is a close second. The few times I’ve played with it though, I didn’t much like it. It slid around a bit from perspiration and moisture around the mouth. I think it works wonderfully alongside duct tape though, especially if you’re going to wrap it under the jaw and around the head, or to use it as a blindfold.

If there’s no tape around, muzzles are the way to go (or, they can just go overtop of it!).

The Bishops is quite possibly the best fucking thing to exist in my opinion, not only because of the versatility of the gags (just flat leather against your face, or one of the rubber plugs to gnaw on, etc.), but because the hood leaves the top of the head fairly open and it leaves the nose fully exposed. I’m someone who doesn’t tolerate full hoods well, and I don’t do good with heat either. I’ve played around in full hoods and sensory dep ones before, and they rate high on the list of things to give me an anxiety attack. If my nose is in any way covered or obstructed, I feel like I’m slowly suffocating, and even if I’m not, that feeling kills my mood quick.

However, if I’m gagged and only able to breathe out of my nose, by all means, feel free to stick a clothespin on it and watch me struggle. Breath control makes me happy! (poppers, gassing and choking however, does not).

-Let’s pause here for a safety moment!-

Not being able to talk sometimes poses risks in bondage scenes, as we can all pretty well assume. It’s that lack of communication and feeling of helplessness that really drives some people over the edge too, but I’m not one of those people most of the time. Don’t get me wrong, that shit really turns me on, but if something happens, I need to be able to get the word out to whomever I’m playing with. While I can understand that agreeing on some kind of “Woah! Stop!” signal can be a turn off for some people, because it gives them a guaranteed way out, but I am not those kinds o people. I usually play with the rule of “Two short grunts and a third long one means stop”, and even then, usually that just means take off the gag so I can speak, cause I’d rather just address whatever is wrong or unbearably uncomfortable, and then get back to business.

When I’m in the mood for some kink, I like bondage, and I like staying in it. I’d rather be comfortable and last longer than burnt out quickly and hitting limits from something overly stressful. ;)

-End safety moment-

One of the biggest things that turns me on about gags is that the only sounds you can get from someone who is gags is grunts and moans.

Hearing another guy just grunt and moan and whine is the greatest symphony to my ears.

Despite how talkative a person I am, when it comes to bondage, I’m rather quiet. Straight-up, no strings attached vanilla sex? I’m talkative and grunty and moany and just generally noisy as shit. If I’m gagged and bound and not making noise, then it means I’m rather bored with whatever is going on, or I’m asleep.

ProTip: Don’t let me be bored and asleep, please and thanks. ;)

Now, to round this entry off, here are a few favorite pics of mine of guys gagged. (Standard disclaimer: I didn't take these pics, they're not of me, but damn they're hot!)